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Open adoption is often presented as the perfect solution, but it isn't the best choice for every situation. And although it's often a good thing, it can be difficult.
* Open adoption should not be marketed to pregnant women/couples as a way to avoid all pain and loss - it doesn’t do that. It’s still adoption and it still hurts the parents. It may be the best possible solution but that doesn’t mean there isn’t sadness.
* Adoptive parents - after the adoption - may feel confused and ambivalent about their roles and how to treat their child’s birthparents until they reach a sort of equilibrium.
In 1982, Kathleen Silber and Phyllis Speedlin wrote a groundbreaking book about open adoptions, "Dear Birthmother, Thank You For Our Baby," a book that opened an ongoing dialog that has increased in volume over the years. Silber and Speedlin present open adoption as being about love, honesty, trust, and communication. It is child-centered. It is about making a lifelong commitment - and it isn’t easy. No lifetime commitment is easy and this one, that brings to the fore our roles as parents - whether by adoption or biology - is one of the most sensitive and complex.
Love, honesty, trust, and communication - Silber and Speedlin’s original premise.
* The love comes naturally;
* honesty is a promise we make to our children;
* trust builds over time.
But communication is something each of us can and needs to pursue aggressively. It isn’t a passive thing. It isn’t going to happen unless we make it happen. And it’s the key to the work that needs to be done to enter into a positive open adoption, to keeping it open and doing what we hope it will do... bring our children a secure sense of who they are and who they can become.
The first step is to clarify what we mean when we use the term "open adoption."
The term open adoption refers to the sharing of information and/or contact between the adoptive and biological parents of an adopted child. This can occur before, during and/or after the placement of the child. (Baran and Pannor, 1993)
Confidential - Mediated - Fully Disclosed
Confidential: Minimal information is shared between adoptive and birth family members and is never transmitted directly; any exchange of information typically stops with the adoptive placement of shortly thereafter.
Mediated: Non-identifying information is shared between parties through adoption agency personnel, who serve as go-betweens; sharing could include exchange of pictures, letters, gifts, or infrequent meetings at which full identifying information is not revealed.
Fully disclosed: Involves full disclosure of identifying information between adoptive and birth families; may involve direct meetings in each others' homes or in public places, phone calls, letters, and sometimes contact with the extended family.
How many open adoptions take place each year?
In 69% of public and private agency adoptions, the birth parents had met the adoptive couple. (Berry, 1991)
What is the history of open adoption in the United States?
The origin of statutory requirements in the early 20th century, that adoption be confidential and that birth certificates and adoption records be sealed, began with early laws such as the Minnesota Act of 1917. By the early 1950s almost every state had amended its adoption statues to create complete anonymity for the birth parents. Beginning in 1974, research demonstrates that some of the psychological problems observed in adolescent and adult adoptees, birth parents, and adoptive parents appeared to be directly related to the secrecy, anonymity, and sealed records of adoption. Open adoption became increasingly common in the 1970s, 1980s, and 1990s as research and practice began to promote the principles of open adoption. (Baran and Pannor, 1993)
What research has been conducted on triad members in open adoptions?
* Research to date indicates that birthmothers commonly view open adoption positively. (Berry, 1993)
* In Belba's 1987 study, measuring minimum, moderate, and maximum contact with birthmothers of 12 adoptive couples, adoptive parents reported that they appreciated having contact with birthmothers to answer questions as they arose. (Berry, 1993)
* Not all outcomes, however, have been positive. In a 1990 mailed survey of 59 relinquishing birthmothers, 18 in open adoption and 41 in confidential adoptions, Blanton and Deschner found that birthmothers in open adoptions were significantly more troubled than those in closed adoptions in the areas of social isolation, sleep complaints, physical symptoms, despair and dependency. ("Openness" was defined as meeting at placement.) (Berry, 1993)
* In a 1993 study, Gross interviewed 32 adoptive parents and 16 birthmothers, and surveyed 75 adoptive parents from a private agency. Gross found that 72% of adoptive parents were "very satisfied" with contact with birth mothers, 19% were "basically satisfied" but had some reservations; 2 families were dissatisfied and had ceased contact. Fifteen of the sixteen birthmothers were satisfied with contact. In the questionnaire sample, a relationship was found between more frequent contact and a higher degree of satisfaction with the placement. (Grotevant and McRoy, 1998)
The following statistics are based on the Grotevant and McRoy longitudinal study on open adoption. Between 1987-1992, information was collected from 190 adoptive families and 169 birthmothers experiencing varying levels of openness in their adoptions.
The data from the study, a snapshot of families taken 4 to 12 years after the adoptive placement, revealed:
* Fears that birth parents would attempt to reclaim their children or otherwise intrude on adoptive families' lives are not apparent in families with fully disclosed adoptions.
* Openness does not interfere with adoptive parents' emerging sense of entitlement to parenthood.
* Having a fully disclosed adoption does not guarantee successful grief resolution, as is evidenced by the broad range of grief resolution ratings among birthmothers across all adoption arrangements in this study.
In the same study, thirty-one adoption agencies were also interviewed on their practice toward the range of openness. The agencies were measured in two time intervals: Time 1 was between 1987 and 1989 and Time 2 was 1993.
* Only 11 of the original 31 agencies (35%) offered fully disclosed adoption options as part of their standard practice at Time 1. Four to five years later, 22 of the remaining 29 agencies (76%) offered full disclosed adoptions.
* By 1993, 2/3 of the agencies offered the continuum of openness in adoption, from confidential to fully disclosed. In 1987, most agencies offered only confidential and mediated adoptions.
* 2/3 of the fully disclosed adoptions in this sample did not start as fully disclosed: 5% began as mediated and 14% began as confidential.
(Grotevant and McRoy, 1998)
Bibliography
Baron, A. and Pannor, R. (1993). Perspectives on open adoption. The Future of Children: Adoption, 3(1), 119-124.
Berry, M. (1993). Adoptive parents' perceptions of, and comfort with, open adoption. Child Welfare, 77(3), 231-253.
Berry, M. (1993). Risks and benefits of open adoptions. The Future of Children, 3(1), 125-138.
Grotevant, H.D. and McRoy, R.G. (1998). Openness in Adoption: Exploring Family Connections. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publications.
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This material has been taken from the National Adoption Information Clearinghouse Web site as reviewed and approved for addition to this site on December 28, 2003.
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